The Effects Of Emotion Management On My Life Essay

828 Words Nov 25th, 2014 4 Pages
As a girl growing with ADHD I was told by people that my behavior wasn’t unacceptable, simply because I behaved “different" from other girls my age. I was pressured into being silent as opposed to boys my age whose loud behavior was often tolerated and regarded as normal. I was even put on medication to keep my behavior under control. Managing emotions has had a tremendous impact on my life. Emotion management can be described as an act of masking ones true feelings to react fittingly to situations where people find themselves in. (Brym and Lie 2015: 77). For instance, due to being constantly scolded as an adult I perpetually find myself trying to remain calm so that I fit in better with my friends and classmates. When I fail to manage my emotions I feel extreme guilt and shame because I was made to believe that my true self was unacceptable and that I have to behave a certain way in order to be considered “normal” like others.
My experience illustrates that when people manage their emotions, they customarily follow certain cultural “scripts,” which suggests appropriate behavior for each member of society including women. These cultural scripts allow people within society to conform to what is expected of them and that it would be abnormal to deviate from culturally agreed upon norms because it disrupts the function of society. So if the members of society do not succeed in achieving the culturally appropriate emotional response, they are likely to feel guilt,…

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